The Simple Truths of Recognition, Validation, Acceptance

Please bear with me for a moment as I quote some dialogue from the movie Bicentennial Man. This article is not so much about the movie, as it is about what we all hope to achieve, and what we seek as crossdressers or TG.

“I have always tried to make sense of things. There must be some reason I am as I am. As you can see, Madam Chairman, I am no longer immortal.”

“You have arranged to die?”

“In a sense, I have. I am growing old, and my body is deteriorating, and, like all of you, it will eventually cease to function. As a robot, I could’ve lived forever. But I tell you all today, I would rather die a man; than live for all eternity as a machine.”

“Why do you want this?”

“To be acknowledged; for who and what I am, no more, no less. Not for acclaim, not for approval. The simple truth of that recognition; this has been the elemental drive of my existence, and it must be achieved, if I am to live or die; with dignity.”

Robin Williams as Andrew Martin
The Bicentennial Man

I just got done watching Bicentennial Man, a movie that has always elicited tears from me, and it occurred to me that the overall theme was acceptance. And as I watched it, I realized that if we were to replace the device of the main character being a robot; of seeking humanity, and we replaced it with a Transgender person seeking their femininity, masculinity or simply put their humanity, that in the end, it still maintains the same theme. Acceptance; and living life with dignity. It said in beautiful words, what we all feel from time to time.

Sadly, there are those who seek to strip of us of our humanity, femininity or masculinity, simply because we do not meet their ideals or their perceived norms. What they do not see is that by doing these things, they strip themselves of their own humanity because they embrace bigotry. They never seem to stop and ask; is this how one human being should treat another human being? Or how would I feel if somebody sought to strip me of my happiness in life as well as my dignity?Why can they simply not see we wish to be acknowledged, validated, accepted, embraced, understood, and recognized?

Life with dignity should be a universally held concept, but yet in this modern age, even that seems to be beyond supposed civilized and modern men and women. If they would strip that from me, then I strip their right to declare themselves civilized; for they are not. We are all humans, we all bleed, and we all meet the same end. None of us get out of this alive. But at the end of it all, I would much rather say that I contributed to the overall wellness, health, and dignity of those around me; rather than detract from it. I would rather leave a legacy of positivity, validation and recognition, than to oppress and diminish anyone. Why can we as a society not uplift everyone; why must anyone be diminished, pigeonholed, neglected or be looked down upon? I am not exactly a religious person. I shan’t go into what I do and do not believe. To me that is a private matter. But I do recollect a passage that stands out to me through the years.

    “Then he will say to them, ‘I tell all of you with certainty, since you didn’t do it for one of the least important of these, you didn’t do it for me.”

I take the translation of that to mean that if we cannot look out for the least of us, then we do the same injustice to God. I am not saying we are the least of humanity. I am simply suggesting that any harm done to any of us, is harm done to all of us. To a higher power remains to be seen, depending of course, on perspective.

Ever & Always,

An apparently more enlightened than they,

Caden Lane


3 thoughts on “The Simple Truths of Recognition, Validation, Acceptance

  1. Or put another way “do unto others as you would have done unto you” A very simple thought that like you I really wish every one would subscribe to. Maybe then this world would be a better more tolerant place. There is too much intolerance towards those who do not conform to some percieved idea of what is a “norm”.

    “Old lady judges watch people in pairs
    Limited in sex, they dare
    To push fake morals, insult and stare”. Bob Dylan

    A very well written and thought provoking blog

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  2. I would settle for tolerance not acceptance. Being who I am I understand some people find disgusting. But allow me to live my life the way I see fit. That I don’t need someone else to decide for me how I should act or even what I do to my body or who I am. I am open to suggestions and opinions but leave it at that. That is showing tolerance and respect for the person. If I receive acceptance and support then bonus.

    This works both ways. I need to show tolerance for other people in how they act or opinion that I find disgusting or do not agree with. Present my opinion and leave it at that. Let them decide and act in a manner they see fit. Even when what they do harms me. I can ignore them and defend myself, but its not up to me to decide if they deserve punishment. I will leave that to God if he exists. He can judge them harshly for bringing harm to one of his creatures.

    But in the end we should all tolerant at the minimum each other. Accept a person if we can. But the best thing to do is to support each other in whatever way we can to live their life in accordance to how they decide to live it not the way we expect them to do it.

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