This past weekend I pondered something out loud to Miss Girlfriend which I had been thinking about silently for months. I cannot seem to come up with an answer, which is why I voiced it to her, and now you.
I’ve seriously been thinking of changing my name. Not my male name; my moniker of Caden Lane. When I first came up with the combination, (Lane is obviously not my family name) I thought it sounded modern and feminine. I felt it was different enough that I would not become blended in and entangled with myriad of Brittney’s, Rachel’s and Tiffany’s that seem to flood our unique world.
I cite as an example my earliest femme presence online, Tiffani Renee’. Yeah, I fell into the CD Tiffani pit. And after managing to claw my way out and carve out a unique ID for myself, I grew to dislike the Caden name.
Because little did I realize, but there are a lot of parents who think Caden is a pretty strong name for a little boy. Before I knew it I was metaphorically surrounded by boys and teens named Caden. Or Cade. Or Kade. Or even Kaden.
I mean come on! What did I have to do, plant a flag in the name, copyright it?!? And what made them think it was such a strong male name?!? The few times I recall seeing it, it had always been a female name.
So here I am debating on changing it. In a few cases it may be difficult, given the nature of some online accounts, but in others it would be easier.
I suppose the unasked should be asked as well; if I do change it, what should I change it to?
Any input will be greatly appreciated, even if it is advice to keep my name as is. Maybe all it takes is a little reassurance that it’s more femme than male is all it takes. None of our community has ever questioned is “female-ness,” so it’s more an internal thing. Anyhow, thanks for any and all input.
Ever & Always,